No One Likes A Bridezilla
We all would be lying if we said we hadn’t thought about what our wedding will look like - even if you’re currently swiping left on your couch watching FRIENDS reruns with no prospects in sight. But the day will come when you start planning a wedding of your own - and while on the outside it looks like all fun, you may quickly feel yourself becoming someone you don’t even recognize - a bridezilla. It’s not your fault, planning a wedding can be stressful, and feel like you are being pulled in a hundred different directions - but don’t worry, we’ve compiled a few tips to help save you from unleashing your pre-nuptial monster.
Prioritize What Is Important To You & Your Partner
Weddings have a lot of moving parts and elements - from music, decor, invitations, location, food - you get the idea. Between you and your partner, pick one or two things that are important to you (like the location, or what kind of cake you want) that you don’t want to compromise on. By focusing on one or two important elements, instead of all of them, you’re less likely to care when you need to compromise on something else.
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
Remember Your Guests Won’t Know When Something Goes Wrong. While you have been dreaming about this day down to the detail, your guests likely won’t realize if something goes amiss on your big day - so you shouldn’t sweat it! Your guests just want to be there to celebrate you and have a good time, they won’t be scrutinizing every little detail like you are.
Remember Murphy’s Law
Anything that can go wrong, will go wrong. While that may seem like a negative adage, it’s actually helpful to remember that ultimately it will be out of your control. If you prepare yourself mentally for something to go wrong, you won’t be as upset when it does. And if nothing goes wrong, even better! You didn’t worry about it, and it didn’t happen. Win/win.
The best way to not become a bridezilla? Delegate the bridezilla-ing to someone else. Whether you hire a day-of coordinator to make sure all the details of your wedding are perfect, or you have a bridesmaid, family member, or friend who isn’t afraid to boss people around and make sure your day is as close to perfect as possible - let them deal with any issues that arise, and you can just relax the day of your wedding sipping champagne.
Author: Rachel Mazzola